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Have you Seen My Alps?

Rabbi Streiffer

The great nineteenth century Orthodox leader, Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, once surprised his students by insisting that he needed to visit Switzerland. When his students asked him why it was so important, he answered: "When I reach the gates of heaven, I will be asked many questions. And I will have good answers for most of them. But what will I say when God asks me, 'Nu Samson, did you see my Alps?'"

We usually refer to the September holidays as the High Holy Days. It is a name that highlights the austerity and sanctification of this special time. Sometimes we call them the Yamim Nora'im - the Days of Awe. By using that name, we stress the dread and fear sometimes associated with these holidays. But my preferred name for this season is Aseret Y'mai Teshuvah - the Ten Days of Repentance. Because that title emphasizes the unique spiritual process that we undertake during this season.

Teshuvah - repentance - doesn't only mean to feel sorry for what you've done wrong. It comes from the Hebrew root שוב - "to return." To do teshuvah is to return to our true values, to the path that God intends for us and that we intend for ourselves. To do teshuvah means to ask ourselves: Which parts of myself need work? Which of my goals stand unfulfilled? Which of my paths have led me to fulfillment and which have not? Which tasks have I not yet taken on, and which places (maybe the Alps!) have I not yet seen?

When we gather in the synagogue on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, it is with this purpose in mind: to reconnect not only with the synagogue and with one another, but also with ourselves. With the selves we wish to be.

I look forward to seeing all of you as we begin a new Jewish year. 5778 promises to be a busy and exciting year filled with learning, celebration, and community. I can’t wait to share it with you.


Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Dog Days

Rabbi Streiffer

In his poem “Summer Sun,” Robert Louis Stevenson writes:

Great is the sun, and wide he goes
Through empty heaven with repose;
And in the blue and glowing days
More thick than rain he showers his rays.

We are entering the time of year when all we want to do is spend time in the sunshine! As you all know (and I’ve quickly learned), summers are short here in Ontario, so we need to enjoy them while they last.

In one sense, synagogue life seems to slow down over the summer. We have fewer programs; Hebrew school takes a break. And yet, Judaism doesn’t take a vacation for July and August. In fact, this is a wonderful time of year to be Jewish, because there are fewer high-intensity holidays and more opportunities to be outside and appreciate God’s world. Our “Rock Shabbat in the Park” last month was a great example of this. More than 100 of us gathered to welcome Shabbat outdoors, to sing and pray and eat in the sunshine. It is a good time of year to be Jewish.

Many of us arrange our Jewish lives around holidays. We finish the High Holy Days and start looking to Chanukah; then we put away our latke oil and begin looking forward to hamantaschen. But believe it or not, Judaism is not a religion of holidays. It is not a religion that is dependent on special events, or once-a-year celebrations, or even on being indoors. It is a way of life that teaches us to appreciate every moment. No matter where we are or what time of year – even in the dog days of summer – Judaism can guide us toward mindfulness, and appreciation, and connection with one another.

That is our challenge for the summer, as we head off on holidays and to our cottages: to find little ways to celebrate being Jewish. If you’re travelling this summer, look up the Jewish community wherever you may be. Try to attend a service and connect with fellow Jews. Who knows – you may even get invited to somebody’s home for Shabbat dinner. If you’re going to be at the cottage, find ways to make Shabbat special: go for a walk in the great outdoors, appreciate being in nature, make Kiddush and Hamotzi under the stars.

Of course, Shabbat services and learning continue at Kol Ami over the summer. I look forward to seeing you at our “Homestyle Shabbat” services or at Sushi and Study.

Have a wonderful summer,

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Wherein I Reveal The Meaning of Life

Rabbi Steiffer

In Douglas Adams's cult novel, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, several characters build a giant computer to tell them the meaning of life. After millions of years of experimentation, the computer (with much fanfare) finally spits out an answer: the number 42.

But that makes no sense! How can “42” be the answer to life, the universe, and everything? The computer has some insight into this: “I think the problem is that you've never actually known what the question is.”

Judaism, perhaps like sci-fi, is also an attempt to find meaning in life. But the Jewish way isn’t to do it through complex computer equations, but rather through the way we live. When the Rabbis of the Talmud asked this question, they didn’t come up with a number, but a set of instructions:

The world stands on three things: on Torah, on worship, and on acts of kindness. (Pirke Avot 1:2)

This is the Rabbis’ threefold “recipe” for a meaningful life:

Torah – Study is absolutely central to Jewish life. It is the route by which we learn about ourselves and about the world around us. Through study, we reach for meaning intellectually, by trying to understand it.

Worship – We might expand this to “spirituality.” It is the act of building a relationship with what is larger than us (however we conceive it – as a supernatural God or as the natural processes that make for meaning). This might look like prayer, mindfulness, meditation, or reciting blessings. Through worship, we reach for meaning by trying to touch it.

Acts of Kindness – As Jews we are called upon not only to think, not only to strive for meaning, but to do things that actively make our world better. Through Tikkun Olam, we reach for meaning by trying to actualize it.

Living a Jewish life is ultimately a search for meaning through the combination of these three acts. Looking over our calendar of events, I am proud of the ways that our community engages together. This month alone, we will come together for creative and musical worship services, for stimulating learning activities, and for acts of repair and renewal for our world. I hope to see you at Sushi & Study, or Ruach Shabbat, or Rock Shabbat in the Park, or the blood drive, or any of the other many times we will come together. These aren’t just activities – they are ingredients in our individual and congregational search for meaning.

I think Adams got it right: the meaning of life isn't an answer – it's a question. And we answer that question through the way we live. I’m glad that we, as a congregation, as on that journey together.


Rabbi Micah Streiffer

For Our Teachers and Their Students

Rabbi Streiffer

An ancient Chinese proverb says, “Teachers open the door, but you must enter for yourself.”

This is not a Jewish saying, but it is a Jewish idea. Our tradition prizes learning and teaching perhaps above all else. We are taught in the Mishnah that a life of learning is of equal weight to all of the mitzvot put together. We even created a special honourific name for teachers – the word “Rabbi,” which literally means “The Great One” in Hebrew. (As if rabbis need any help singing their own praises…)

And like the Chinese proverb above, Judaism reminds us that learning is not the responsibility of the teacher but of the learner. Throughout our texts, we are exhorted to be lifelong learners of Torah. To be wrestlers with God and with tradition. To strive toward our best and most knowledgeable selves.

The Hebrew word for Scholar is Talmid Chacham which means, ironically, “Wise Student.” To be a teacher is to be a lifelong learner. To be a scholar is to know that there is much you do not know.

We Jews build our lives around this notion, and we have done so at Kol Ami as well. A few years ago, we revamped our Madrichim (Teacher Helper) program and combined it with our Confirmation (Post-B’nai Mitzvah learning) program. All of our student teachers - our teens who serve as helpers and role models for younger students – are learners in their own right. They spend time together on Shabbat mornings discussing Judaism from a teen perspective and delving into their own beliefs. By the same token, our Religious School teachers go through regular learning and enrichment sessions, led by Judy Silver who herself models the value of learning. This month, Judy will receive the Masters of Jewish Education toward which she has been working for 2 years. Mazal Tov Judy!!

This month we honour our teachers and our learners, particularly at two events: Teacher Appreciation Shabbat (May 12 at 6:30pm, as part of Rock Shabbat) is an opportunity to thank those who educate our young people. And our Confirmation service (May 30 at 7:30pm Shavuot services) is a chance to recognize the student learners who have committed themselves to Jewish learning all the way through Grade 10. I hope you will join us for both of these services.

Every Shabbat we recite the Learner’s Kaddish together: “For our teachers and their students, and the students of the students, we ask for peace and loving-kindness.” May we commit ourselves to be lifelong learners and teachers. And may our community always be one that puts this important Jewish value to action.


Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Free Your Mind

On Sunday, March 26, 2017

Shakespeare wrote, “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.”

When Hamlet says these words, he is trying to convince Horatio to believe in ghosts - specifically, the ghost that has just appeared right before his eyes. But in these words is a lesson for all of us: the universe is a big place, filled with many experiences, phenomena, philosophies, and beliefs. We can’t assume we know it all.

How often do we operate on the assumption that other people’s experience and knowledge bases are essentially the same as ours? How often do we project our own beliefs, understandings, and faults onto others...and then judge them for behaving differently than we might? I know I’m guilty of this, and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one.

Judaism teaches us to strive to see beyond our own narrow worldview. Abraham became the first Jew by looking beyond his upbringing and adopting a brand new philosophy – the Oneness of God. The Rabbis of the Talmud spent pages upon pages debating every angle of the law, often without ever deciding which one was “right.” And in the Midrash, a voice comes from heaven to settle an argument between Hillel and Shammai by declaring “Both opinions are the words of the living God.”

We are commanded as Jews to open our minds, to try to understand the experiences and beliefs of others, and in so doing, to grow in our knowledge, wisdom, and compassion. This month we have three separate events that are opportunities to do so, each in its own way:

Sharing Values, Building Bridges: This important panel discussion on April 1 is an opportunity to learn more about the experience of Indigenous Canadians, and to build connections between our two communities.

The Passover Seder is, as always, a chance to invite new people into our homes and to incorporate new traditions into our rituals. If you have a spot at your Seder table, please let me know.

Our Carlebach Shabbat Service on April 28 is an attempt to do something new and different on a Friday night. This extremely musical, a cappella style of prayer was developed in the Orthodox world, but transfers really nicely to our setting.

Please see the monthly Voice or contact me for more information on these programs.

“To everything there is a season.” If you’re looking to broaden your Jewish experience through learning, prayer, volunteering, or community, please don’t hesitate to be in touch with me. I look forward to hearing from you.


Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Live Long & Oy Vey!!

On Sunday, February 25, 2017

My favourite rabbi has always been Captain Jean-Luc Picard of the USS Enterprise.

No, really! What is a rabbi if not someone who (boldly) leads a community, who cares about people (and androids), who says wise things (“Things are only impossible until they’re not”), and who seeks to understand human nature (“Mr. Worf, villains who twirl their moustaches are easy to spot. Those who clothe themselves in good deeds are well-camouflaged”).

I grew up watching Star Trek: The Next Generation. Others may argue for the supremacy of Rabbi James T. Kirk instead. Either way, it’s hard to deny that Starship captains have to be philosophers. And it’s hard to deny that Star Trek is deeply Jewish.

Here are a few Jewish strains in the Star Trek universe:
• The world of Star Trek is semi-utopian, almost Messianic. It’s a world where poverty, racism, and war have been vanquished from the Earth (even though the Romulans haven’t figured that out yet). You don’t have to read much further than the book of Isaiah to see the Jewish roots of this vision.
• Starfleet officers are required to have a “can-do” attitude. In space, things will always go wrong, and you have to believe that you have the wherewithal to solve those problems. In Hebrew, we call this “Tikkun Olam – Repairing the World.”
• Like Judaism, Star Trek believes that people are inherently good, but flawed. Captain Kirk said, “The prejudices people feel about each other disappear when they get to know each other.” And, though Spock thought it was illogical, the crew always believed humanity’s ability to triumph over their inner demons.

Yes, from the moment Mr. Spock first lifted his hand in the sign of the cohanim, Star Trek has presented us with an optimistic, spiritual, philosophically rich approach of the world that sent the philosophies of Judaism racing toward the stars.

Now it’s time to take our relationship with Star Trek to a whole other level – the level of lampooning it mercilessly! This Purim, we’ll join Captain James T. Kirkowitz and Lt. Kainuhura as they boldly go where no Purim Spiel has gone before. Come join us on March 11 at 6pm for laughter, food, fun, and – as Commander Data would say – to “attempt to fill a silent moment with non-relevant conversation.” It’s the most fun you can have in the Alpha Quadrant!

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Desert Island Judaism?

On Sunday, January 22, 2017

An old joke:

A Jew was shipwrecked alone on a desert island for years and year. When he was finally rescued, the ship’s crew discovered that in his time on the island, he had built a life for himself – a shelter, access to food, and TWO synagogues.
“The puzzled rescuers asked him: “If you’re alone here, why do you need two synagogues?”
“Simple,” he answered. “This one is where I pray. And that one over there is the one I wouldn't set foot in."

On the one hand, this is a cynical joke about the ways that Jews don’t get along – it’s sad to think that even on a desert island there could be a synagogue we wouldn’t attend. But I prefer to read it differently. I’m amazed that the Jew on the desert island built synagogues to begin with! Alone on an island for years, and all the time he was creating communal prayer spaces. He must have been absolutely starved for community.

Judaism is built around community. Being together is our antidote to a sometimes-frightening world, and it’s our vehicle for bringing the most goodness and holiness into our lives. In the Talmud, it teaches that when we pray or study or even eat together, “the divine presence rests between us.” In other words, the things we do together bring God into the world.

We need each other. Today, more than ever. In the 21st century, society tells you to be an individual, to fend for yourself. And though we most often tag our neighbours to the south as the “rugged individualists,” we in Canada are also the children of the Enlightenment – we believe in building our OWN identities, our OWN careers, our OWN sense of self-worth. There is a great deal of goodness and empowerment in this worldview. But we don’t have to do it alone. We are not living on a desert island, and we are strongest as individuals when we build a supportive and holy community around ourselves.

A few years ago, when we began to subtly shift our language away from “Temple” and toward “Congregation,” it was with these thoughts in mind. A temple is a building – a place of prayer and study. But a community is a group of people who come together to bring holiness in the world. Kol Ami is both of these, but it is primarily and especially the latter.

Help us continue to build our Kehilah Kedoshah – our Holy Community. Each time you are present for a service or class or program, it makes us a little stronger both as individuals and as a community.

Here’s a new opportunity: come check out our “Challah Club” on February 15. It’s a chance to be together, to do some learning, and to produce homemade challah regularly. See the Voice for details!

Thank you the role you play in building this Holy Community. I feel continually honoured to be a part of it with each and every one of you.

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Eat, Pray, Love

On Monday, December 16, 2017

About 10 years ago, everybody was talking about “Eat, Pray, Love.” That book taught that we find meaning in life through food, spirituality, and relationships. It may have felt innovative in 2006, but in fact, Judaism has been teaching something similar for 2000 years!

“The world stands on three things: on Torah, on worship, and on acts of kindness.” (Pirke Avot 1:2)

This quote comes from Pirke Avot, one of the first books of ethics that Judaism ever produced. Written somewhere between 18 and 20 centuries ago, it recorded the favourite ethical sayings of the Rabbis. The saying above, attributed to Simon the Righteous (one of the very earliest of the early Rabbis), breaks down Jewish life into three categories: learning, praying, and making the world better.

I don’t know if there is any better definition of religious life than this. What do we do as Jews? We strive to be lifelong learners, to build a relationship with God (in whatever way we conceptualize God), and to leave the world around us a better place. And we form our communities based around these meaningful actions.

I am often asked what makes Kol Ami unique. I think it is the seriousness with which we form these meaningful communities. We are a small congregation – only 160 families or so – but there are literally dozens of ways to connect to Jewish life within these walls: Torah Study, services, Kol Ami Book Club, choir, Rock Shabbat, Adult B’nai Mitzvah, SFT, cooking classes, Israeli dance, Hebrew School, Out of the Cold, iEngage, Sushi & Study. Each one of these represents a group of people who care about each other and who care about being Jewish together. Each can be an opportunity to engage with others, with God, and to bring meaning into our own lives. It’s how we “Eat, Pray, and Love.”

If you are seeking community (and who among us isn’t??), consider getting more involved at Kol Ami. Whether you are looking for learning, or spirituality, or volunteer opportunities, or schmooze time with friends, we’ll help you find it or create it. Give me a call!

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Whose Kotel Is It Anyway?

On Monday, November 21, 2016


The last few months have brought some remarkable developments for the Reform Jewish relationship with Israel. Earlier this year, the Israeli government and the liberal movements agreed in principle to the creation of an egalitarian section of the Western Wall. But since the government backed away from that plan shortly thereafter, the rest of the year has seen such dramatic events as: mixed-gender services at the Kotel Plaza, disrupted by whistling from Ultra-Orthodox bystanders; the continuation of Women of the Wall’s monthly prayer services, amidst escalating protests; Reform and Conservative rabbis openly and defiantly carrying Torah scrolls, singing Hineh Mah Tov surrounded by jeering crowds.

The irony is that the Western Wall, which has become such a flashpoint and such an important symbol, is in reality just a wall. If you go back 2000 years, it was simply the outer retaining wall of the huge platform that held the Temple in Jerusalem. Certainly it was part of the Temple complex, and in that sense imbued with some kind of holiness, but it was not in itself a place of prayer or ritual.

So what’s changed? What has made that wall – that pile of bricks - holy and special, worth fighting over (even with fellow Jews)? I believe it’s because the Kotel – and the Temple that it was part of – are meant to belong to all Jews.

Our ancient ancestors believed that the Temple in Jerusalem was the centre of the world. mapLiterally. The medieval map to the side shows the continents of the known world laid out like a flower, with Jerusalem at its middle. And, for Jews, the Temple served as a uniting force – in times of war they defended against conquerors, and in times of peace they brought their first fruits, to the geographical middle of the country.

That notion of the Temple as a uniting force, as a heritage of ALL Jews, is part of what motivates the Reform and Conservative campaign to “liberate” the Kotel today. And it informs our views of Israel as a whole –the Jewish state should be a place in which all Jews are free to worship and live their Jewish lives. This is the work being done by our Reform movement (which has quietly grown into more than 40 congregations and dozens of preschools around Israel). It is the work being done in our partnership with Congregation Birkat Shalom at Kibbutz Gezer, and it is the work being supported by our membership in ARZA Canada.

ARZA Canada, the Reform Zionist voice in Canada, represents our unique Reform Jewish perspective - one that is loving and supportive of Israel, but also working to create an Israel that is a home for all Jews and a shining example of our Jewish values. We are lucky this year to have an ARZA Scholar in Residence – Rabbi Benjie Gruber – with us in the GTA for the year! Our support for ARZA Canada (annual membership is $36) supports that work of programming, advocacy, and building Reform Jewish life in the Jewish state. If you are interested in joining the nearly 1/3 of our congregation who are ARZA members, let me know or call the office.

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Who Wants to Be A Minyanaire?

on Sunday, 30 October 2016.

Maybe 15 years ago, I wandered my way into a Shabbat dinner hosted by Chabad in Venice, Italy. It was a strange mix of people – North American students on vacation, Israeli backpackers decompressing from the army, and Yiddish speaking Chabadnicks who were the hosts of the evening.

Of all of the memorable events that evening (and there were many: food, singing, blessings), what sticks in my mind most is the diminutive ultra-Orthodox man who stood outside the door inviting pedestrians into the home: “Are you Jewish?” he would ask each passerby? “Wanna make a minyan?”

“Making a minyan” is a uniquely Jewish concept: It blends the responsibility to pray, our obligations to one another, and a little bit of Jewish guilt. As Jews, we can pray in any place and at any time, in a group or alone. But when we stand together – a group of ten – we transform private into public, and we transform a group into a community.

There are certain prayers that are traditionally only recited in a group of 10. All of them are call-and-response prayers:

  • Barchu - the call to worship
  • Kedushah – a conversation between angels about God’s holiness
  • Kaddish – the opportunity for mourners to praise God and remember their departed loved ones, and for the community to speak words of comfort back.

So important is the obligation to recite Kaddish in the wake of a loss, that we have relocated that act to the mourner’s home. When we gather in a Shiva home, it is for the purpose of surrounding the mourners with comfort and support, AND also for the purpose of forming a congregation in which they can say Kaddish. Like those Jews walking the streets of Venice, we enter the building as individuals, but are transformed into a community.

This is, in fact, one of the most generous acts that we can perform. I can think of so many members of our congregation whose lives were transformed when they felt supported by the community in time of loss. When a loved one dies, we often feel as if we are in a haze – we may not remember what food was sent; we likely don’t remember who said what. But we remember that people showed up. We remember people were there. We remember that our friends and family made a minyan for us.

Our new initiative is called Minyanaires. It is a group of Kol Ami members who will attend Shiva for fellow congregants. Our goal is to ensure that all of our members feel supported in times of loss. There is no obligation to lead a service or read Hebrew, and you do not have to be available for every Shiva service. It is simply commitment to be there for one another whenever we can.

Minyanaires “training” will be held on Monday, November 21 at 7pm. See the Voice for more details, or feel free to email me. I look forward to participating in this mitzvah with you.

Rabbi Micah Streiffer

Sun, September 24 2017 4 Tishrei 5778